by External Poster » Tue Sep 21, 2010 3:30 pm
This posting is from: Holly
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Rosada, honey, you know I loves ya!
> Holly, sweetie I sympathize with your stand but I have to say
> that there has to be some standards of dress to show that you
> have pride in yourself, and also have some sort of sense of
> what is appropriate and decent.
The only standards we "have to have" are those standards we hold
ourselves accountable to. If we allow anyone to dictate what we wear,
and by extansion what and how we think, we lose the umderlying freedoms
upon which our country was founded. If you and I conformed to the
generally accepted standards today, what we chose to wear would not be
considered appropriate or decent by many.
> Clearly, these people may not know any better, are just too damn
> lazy, don't care.
>
> I can excuse them if they don't know any better. That could be
> remedied with a little education. You'll have to admit that some
> of these outfits rally come close to violating codes of decency.
If this is a matter of education, then by all means they should be
educated. But it is very hard to teach someone while holding them up to
public ridicule at the same time. That is why I dislike POWM and
similar sites. They are just taling cheap shots st persons who are
unable to respond. Having a laugh at someone elses expense is not
comedy, it's curelty. And for myself, I chose not to perpetuate such
behaviour.
> Don't you think. I dona't agree that we in the TG community
> should dress like this.
Neither do I. And we don't, do we? Rosada, I have always appreciated
how you present yourself in fashion and demeanor and attitude. I would
absolutely cry if you thought for a moment my remarks about POWM were
directed at you... they most certainly were not. So there is no
confusion, my disgust is with POWM and other websites who think public
humiliation is accpetable entertainment.
> ...
> I hope I don't find myself face to face with someone like this.
> I might let loose my sharp tongue. I'm sorry, but that's how
> strongly I feel. I know I'll probably anger a lot of people in
> DLV for my stand. Bob, I know you're around somewhere close.
Rosada, could I offer you an alternative to a sharp tounged response?
If it is truly and educational issue as you suggest above, wouldn't it
be better to take that person aside and educate them a bit? "Miss, you
are a beautiful young lady, but that bare midrif look just isn't
working for you. Instead, why not try a canisole with a nice blouse
over it but unbuttoned. This will cause people's looks to be drawn up
to where your beauty is." You get your point across and the person
hopefully learns something in the process... win/win. I hope you will
at least consider it :o).
> WE AS A GROUP NEED TO STAND UP TO ANYONE IN OUR GROUP TO WHO
> DRESSES IN THE MANNER OF ONE OF THOSE NASTY FUNKY WAL-MART
> SHOPPERS., UNLESS THEY ARE DRESSING THAT WAY FOR COSTUME EFFECT.
I agree... to a point. No exposed underwear, no butt cheeks, no camel
toe, bosoms should be properly restrained, appliances should remain
unseen, and so on. But regulation must be lax enough to allow all
participants the freedom to express themselves without fear of
reprisal. Hopefully, if those of us who present MtF will remember that
we are presenting as ladies and not streetwalkers we won't have any
problems. The rule of thumb I use is if I had been born my mothers
daughter instead of her son, would she be proud to see me the way I am
dressed? That process hasn't failed me yet. I would also point out
that this type of regulation comes from within the organization and
should be based on providing a safe level of participation by attendees
and not on individual preferences or tastes. This is much different
than external regulation of dress or something based on ridicule such
as POWM.
> Rosada's Kettle is NOT Black But Hot Pink!
And a cute kettle it is!
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(This posting was entered by Holly, an external user of MyDLV.)