Dress code

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This posting is from: kumiko yvonne watanabe
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I have to disagree with Bob, and this is not making
a mountain out of a molehill. This deals with the
following the suggested guidelines everyone has to
agree to, as part of the requirement of attending DLV.
Part of that involves dressing by age and activity appropriate.

> only 4 or 5 complaing about this fabulous gown

These were comments in the survey. So there were
a percentage of attendees that were affected by what
this person wore. I agree with Bob, that this is a small
percentage, but there may be more that were affected
by it and didn't write a comment about it.

Those that were concerned enough to care, did comment
on it because it affected their enjoyment of the event. As
Annie wrote, it didn't really affect the overall enjoyment
but was enough to be pointed up as a noticed concern.

There are enough guidelines on how something like this
is to be handled. My understanding was the comments
questioned on how this was handled, and the disc since
has cleared it up.

Bob, are you saying that these people should not speak up
and express what they saw as a problem or concern?

> stop this bickering of what they wear.

> Maybe it's time to revamp the dress code for 2011

From what I am reading, Bob, are you saying to come as
you feel like it, and allow such things as a 250lb
individual in spandex or mini-skirts with bare midriffs,
belly fat hanging out and telling everyone else in no
uncertain terms that "you should mind your own business
and dress appropriate for the way you present yourself
and not what your age is"?

> You people talk about having a Formal event and
> this girl made it real.

Yes, but Bahama Breeze wasn't planned as a formal
gown event, nor that type of formal restaurant. It was
the farewell bash HH and dinner at a family style restaurant.

If Bahama Breeze was the type of restaurant that patrons
come in dressed in formal attire, then as it was brought
up in a comment, why weren't there any other gg female
in the whole restaurant dressed in formal attire? or
why were all the ggs in the restaurant dressed in casual
attire? Why wasn't the literature about this event stating
it was a formal gown event? Its because it wasn't one.

Everyone else that attended followed the suggested guidelines
on what to wear, and also emulated a typical average
gg patron in that restaurant, and also anywhere
in Las Vegas as a gg dressed casual attire. Many of the
ggs (non-attendees) in that restaurant were also wearing
pants and even jeans. Have you done your 'people watching'
those going to that restaurant? You would have seen this for
yourself.

I think most of our attendees HAVE done their homework
and have done the 'people watching' those going to that
restaurant, and they have dressed and looked very appropriate
to that venue.

> She did nothing more than wear the most extravagant gown she
> had to the final event of the week.

> What do you say to yourself if you find out she's 63yo. She's a
> knockout.

Yes, she wore a very extravagant gown. I don't see
any criticism of how she looked in that gown. How
she looked wasn't the issue.

It was a question on how appropriate it was to wear
that type of gown at that event and that restaurant,
specifically how it affected others.

The concern is reducing the enjoyment for everyone
else at a event because of what a single person wants to wear.
Some call this 'see me and what I wear ' as self-ish.

It was never brought up to the coordinator or senior/voting
volunteers, and the bottom line is nothing was done,
but everyone still enjoyed that evening, which was a good
result.

What she wore would also fails your 'people watching'
standard comparing to how all other ggs dressed in that
venue.

> What about a woman that is 5'7" 125-135lbs. 36-28-36
> wearing a mini skirt with a cami, hose and 3" heels. Nice
> picture, huh....!

We had a few attendees this past DLV that had those
measurements, and they dressed and looked appropriately
casual. Some attending that night were also ggs or spouses
with some very close to those measurements, and they
also dressed quite nicely in casual attire.

I wish I had those measurements too! Then again, how many
of the M to F attendees are 5'7" 125-135lbs. 36-28-36 that attended
that night? I don't think this follows your 'majority' of attendees
at that event either.

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This posting is from: bob
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I have only one thing to say to Kumiko

"Ignorance is bliss"

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