> You still haven't given me the symptoms.
The primary symptom would be the same as that for what's called, depending on who is speaking and using what references, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Identity Disorder, Transsexualism, or any of various close-synonyms.
It's basically a discomfort with the traditional gender role of one's birth sex.
I do not believe that the term "Harry Benjamin Syndrome" appears in much, if any, clinical literature. It is, however, used as a label of self-identity by some. It's regarded by some clinicians as an attempt to bypass the usual and customary (and admittedly conservative) procedures for treatment.
> Let's back up; who the heck is or was Harry Benjamin?
The late Harry Benjamin was one of the pioneer researchers and clinicians in the field of gender identity and transsexualism. He is known best for _The_Transsexual_Phenomenon_, one of the very earliest texts on the subject, for formulating what became the Benjamin Standards Of Care (now known by some very long alternate name), and (LOL) for the "Two-S" spelling of "transsexual/ism/etc."
> I'm perfectly happy being a transvestite - homoerotic variety. Does
> that make me a gender queer?
"Genderqueer" is a recent term of self-identity and is quite overloaded, meaning it has various (but similar) meanings depending on who's speaking.
Some use the term genderqueer to mean "none of the above", as in are you male or female? Others consider it to be a distinct third gender. There are many variations on the theme and the definition is evolving.
Many of those (but not all) who identify as genderqueer adopt a very androgynous style of dress and presentation.
> Do I need a partner to have HB syndrome? Would it help if I did?
No, and probably not.
> Does anybody else out there have it?
Most definitely, but only a minority refer to it as Harry Benjamin Syndrome.
> You know, we got into this a couple of years ago, after Diva '11,
> I think, and never really got it reconciled. I always knew I wanted
> to make a transition, but it's got to end somewhere, right?
Transitioning is not always the answer. The most important thing is to take care of your mental and physical health. As to an "end", some do find that transition is the answer. Others learn to adjust. As we know from several examples, unfortunately, the end can sometimes be very tragic.
Take care of yourself, everybody, please!