Category 13: Behavior, Dress, Restrooms
What does "BDR" stand for?
BDR stands for Behavior, Dress, and Restrooms, specifically a set of
guidelines and best practices for each of these topics, developed over
the years of DLV.
Our history has shown that when these guidelines are observed by all
attendees, the result is a smoother, more harmonious, and more enjoyable
event for all.
What is the basis of the BDR guidelines?
Consideration of others.
Why do you have so many rules?
These aren't really rules. They are guidelines and best practices
and unfortunately some attendees exercise their option to ignore
Those who choose to ignore the guidelines frequently find that they
get themselves and others in trouble!
Why is this necessary? None of the other TG events have this!
Diva Las Vegas is far more mainstream-oriented than any other major
All other major TG events occur under controlled conditions and
under those conditions the concerns about these three topics are
The same can usually be said for other activities in which you
might have participated, such as support group meetings, Pride
festivities, "Girls Night Out" activities, "alternative"
bars and clubs, benefit galas, Imperial Court functions, etc.
What exactly are these rules, guidelines, or whatever it is that you call them?
The general "rule" is to always consider others, dress and behave as
a lady or gentleman (whichever you prefer at the time) and use public restrooms
appropriately and discreetly. "Have fun, but don't have your fun at the
expense of others!"
A good "In A Nutshell" summary of our Behavior, Dress, and Restroom
Guidelines appears HERE and contains
links to more detailed information toward the end of the page.
What is the legal status regarding public restrooms in the Las Vegas area?
Disclaimer: The author of this section is neither an attorney nor a sworn
law enforcement officer, but has consulted with a licensed attorney on this
particular topic. Said consultation was in-office, on the clock, and was
"legal advise" in the strict sense.
Nevada Senate Bill 311, signed into law in May, 2011, prohibits
discrimination in public accommodations on the basis of gender
identity or expression. As of June, 2021, no authoritative legal
opinions have been heard regarding the effects of this law on the
use of public gendered restrooms. This law took effect October 1, 2011.
Some members of the LGBT community consider the above law to be a
"Free Pass" to use the gender-designated facility of choice.
Some property managers, however, believe that if they offer some
facilities, any facilities, available to all, they are within the
letter of the law.
In the past,
a rather extensive search of the Nevada Revised Statutes, Clark County
Code, and Las Vegas Municipal Code revealed no general prohibitions
regarding the use of gendered restrooms in most public and private
facilities in the Las Vegas area. One attendee's conversation with a
Las Vegas Metro Police officer confirmed this.
The conclusion of the legal opinion was along the line of the use of any
property, including a restroom, is "at will" of the
management and they can, legally, restrict one's usage of such as long
as they do not violate applicable statutes or regulations in the process.
Then what's the story on this "Awful Restroom Law" which I keep hearing about?
This persistent rumor is most likely based upon a parks regulation in Clark County
Code, section 19.04.040, which does indeed prohibit males over the age of 8 from
entering or loitering in the vicinity of women's restrooms in public parks.
So, what does all of this mean? Which restroom should I use?
That is entirely up to you!
There are really no "one size fits all" answers, but we can offer some
advise, guidelines, and best practices from the experiences of our hundreds
of attendees over 20+ years of our event. If you're willing to observe our
guidelines, there should be very little difficulty. If you're not, there
is (still) a chance of a very ugly incident involving you and
If you choose to use public restrooms, remember to use them individually,
discreetly, and appropriately.
What if I'm fully-transitioned and have that coveted "F" on my ID? What if I'm a GG?
We ask you to please consider others and use discretion.
Because an intolerant observer will not know what's on your ID and what's
between your legs. All a member of the general public will know is that a
a member of our group has just walked obviously and brazenly into a
public restroom! Such action is just as likely to generate a complaint
to management or security as any case of any of our attendees obviously
using a restroom.
But I've been using public restrooms for decades and never had any issues!
Good for you!
You've most likely been observing good practice.
We're asking all who may be of advanced standing (post-op, fully-transitioned,
legally "F", decades of mainstream public experience, noted persons
in the TG community, etc.) to please help set the example by using restrooms
appropriately and encouraging others to do so.
What are some examples of good practice regarding restroom use?
- Review our restroom guidelines. Learn from the experiences of others.
- If you are in your "home" hotel, use the restroom in your
hotel room. There's absolutely no question about it being legal,
appropriate, or comfortable.
- If unisex restrooms are available, use them! Again, no question about
it being legal or appropriate.
- Seek restrooms which are out of the way or in less-traveled areas.
- Use the restroom in your hotel room immediately before you go out.
- Don't OD on fluids! :)
- Seek restrooms away from where groups of our attendees are obvious to
What are some examples of poor restroom practice?
Using public restrooms in groups! This is one of the absolute worst
practices there is!
Obvious restroom usage. If our group has attracted the attention of the
public, find a restroom away from where the group has congregated.
Standing in the stall! Almost certain to generate a complaint.
Socializing with curious GGs in a public restroom. For every supportive
GG who thinks it's cool for you to be in there, there will be others
who do not! This is very likely to generate complaints.
Defending another's use of a restroom. This has resulted in a supportive
GG being escorted off the property of a major Strip hotel! (This incident
happened after the equal-access law cited previously.)
Speaking in an obvious male voice when in a public ladies room. This
can be very alarming to GGs (and even TGs) who are not seen but are in
the restroom. It is very likely to generate a complaint.
Lingering, loitering, or socializing in a public restroom.
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